If you are feeling like there are situations or people in your life that no longer make you smile or bring that special zing to your life, then they are too small for you. If the things that are too small for you are your family, your job or something else that you chose to have in your life, then the question is; what have you done to make it so small?
There are times when we feel stale, like our life is lack-luster. We want more excitement, more joy more special times to experience. Often we get so used to the people we live with and work with that we begin to see more faults than good. Our job becomes less challenging and more monotonous. Our relationships become repetitive and negative. We can easily, and without meaning to, cause ourselves to dislike something or someone simply by focusing on the negatives. Keeping an ever growing list of the things we don't like and adding to it constantly convincing ourselves that we are unhappy. Since this can happen, the opposite can also happen. We can focus on the positives and replace the negatives with positives. There is almost always positives that we overlook because we are stuck looking for more negatives to add to our list, shrinking our happiness into something so small we can't find the positives anymore. So, start a new list! A list of positives. Look as hard for those as you did with the negatives. If we remember how it "used to be" then we can begin to see things in a more positive light. We can choose to see the good and let go of or accept the less good. There are some things we can change; we can ask our boss to change things up at work maybe by doing something different or adding more challenge. But we don't necessarily have to actually leave our job, though sometimes that may be the answer. We can bring an issue that is bothering us up to our spouse or partner so they are aware of it and can work on it with us, keeping an open dialog. Or talk about a much needed vacation or fun date. Like you "used to do". Life can seem boring, jobs can get monotonous, relationships can get mundane, but instead of leaving the problem or replacing it, we can take what we have and choose to make the positive changes. We can focus on the positives instead of the negatives making that laundry list of the things we like or love. Most often the problem is us. And where ever we go, we always go with ourselves. If we don't change our outlook toward these issues in life they tend to repeat themselves in the new job or new relationship. When we read that "we are responsible for our own happiness" this doesn't necessarily mean making drastic changes to our lives. More often than not it is about our awareness of the blessings in our life and making those bigger. Big enough to build a happy life on. We better accentuate the positive Eliminate the negative Latch on to the affirmative Don't mess with Mister In-Between ~ Johnny Mercer, Harold Arlen *Joanie Lane is a Meditation Teacher, Reiki Master/Teacher, Spiritual & Life Coach, and Healing Movement Qigong Leader. She lives in Kelseyville, Ca. at her meditation center "A Positive Light". For more information visit her website at apositivelight.com **These are original writings by Joanie. Any quotes by others that have been included have been identified.
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