Most of us go through life seeking. Seeking love, or happiness through others or sometimes our addictions. But we never seem to fill that hole or that lack that we carry. As if we aren't enough. As if we aren't quite whole. So we look for something to fill that emptiness that is often caused by this feeling we carry of unworthiness or not being enough.
I've noticed the new addiction of media. Going to a park I see young parents staring at their phone texting, playing games. Sometimes talking on their phone while missing out on their child's life. Many parents sit their children in front of a television or computer, even if it is educational television or computer games, and then spend their time doing the same thing. When we do this as parents we are doing several different harmful things to ourselves, our children and our other relationships. First of all we are separating from the now through electronics. It can be a simple distraction for a bit but it often becomes more of an addiction and attachment, which creates a gap in our relationships. Secondly we could be causing our children to feel unimportant or unloved creating a feeling of unworthiness, a hole in their soul that they may, in later years, try to fill with alcohol or drugs or food or whatever addiction. There are many new studies being done on the harm that computer screens may have on the developing brain and a link to teenagers and schizophrenia due to some computer games. Third, we are probably starving our personal relationship with our partner if we are spending more time on our devices rather than having meaningful and thoughtful conversation with our partner. By using a device as a means of avoidance we cannot mend any fences that need mending in the relationship and the feelings of defeat or lack of self worth grow in us and in our partner. Media can be a good source of information, communication and entertainment. But it can become a distraction from life. Your life, which is short and fleeting as is your time with your children. They grow up and leave home. Your spouse or partner may also leave or you may leave them seeking the deep relationship we all crave but did not create because we gave away our time to media. *Joanie Lane is a Meditation Teacher, Reiki Master/Teacher, Spiritual & Life Coach, and Healing Movement Qigong Leader. She lives in Kelseyville, Ca. at her meditation center "A Positive Light". For more information visit her website at apositivelight.com or her blog site at Joanielane.com **These are original writings by Joanie. Any quotes by others that have been included have been identified.
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